Thursday, September 11, 2014

9/11/01: 2,977 Forever Young

Thirteen years later tears still stream down my face remembering the nightmare that unfolded in my beloved city on a gorgeous & sunny Tuesday morning.  It was a horror movie but it was real & to this day I still can't really comprehend that it happened.  When I walk past I respect that it's a mass graveyard & send love to all we lost.  After the horror, I know that they now live in eternal light & peace.  Seeing the gleaming One World Trade Center fills me with hope & while I will Never Forget I will also never forget how NYC bonded together.  We were all there for each other that day & through the aftermath- workers at the site, business owners reopening their shops, coworkers helping each other get through another anxiety filled day.  In the end, love always prevails over evil, light always conquers darkness....& you don't f**k with NYC :)

My post from last year....

Thoughts, love & prayers to all of those who perished & were affected by 9/11.  We will never forget you.  Twelve years ago my coworkers & I ran from the dust cloud consuming lower Manhattan.  At first we were told we were being bombed.  It was like getting hit on the head with a frying pan....I remember thinking, I don't want to die at a job I'm miserable at, I haven't become the person I always wanted to be....that was just as terrifying.  We soon found out to our disbelief that the towers had fallen.

I wanted to spend more time on this post but the takeaway is this...live with absolutely no regrets.  Say what you need to say, do what you need to do, tell the people you love how you feel about them, if you need to apologize or have a resentment drop your ego & make peace, live everyday with an open heart & follow your dreams relentlessly.  No matter how healthy, young & heck, even beautiful you might be, 9/11 is a horribly sobering reminder that you are never guaranteed another day on this planet.  Cherish each one, spread the love & go to bed every night knowing that if tomorrow was your last day, you would enter the light in peace with no regrets.
I ran the 2011 NYC marathon in memory of those who lost their lives on 9/11, wearing this shirt I designed.

photos: me

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Are We Having Fun Yet??

Do you know that the average child laughs 300 times a day?  And guess how many times the average adult laughs a day.  A measly 15.  These are not good statistics my friends.

What is the point of being here if we're not having fun?  Like it or not, we are all on this planet together- why not make it a fun & joyful party?  Let's love, create, do the things that make our heart sing & most importantly laugh up a storm while doing so.  Turn off the news & its gloom & doom (it causes feelings of stress, depression & helplessness).  Put on Comedy Central, Seinfeld or your comedy of choice (laughter reduces stress, boosts your immune system & creates overall feelings of well-being & happiness).  Or even better meet a friend & laugh together.

If you're thinking, how can I have that much fun?  How can I laugh that much?  Life is serious business!  Don't worry, there are inevitably going to be those life moments of sadness, frustration & tears so we need to fill ourselves up with as much joy & laughter as possible to get through them when they do come.

When is the last time you told someone your favorite joke?  Do you even have a favorite joke?  If not, go out & get one!  Mine is:

What do you get when you cross a penis & a potato?  A dictator.

Silly, I know, but it gets me every time! :)

This post is dedicated to Robin Williams & Joan Rivers- two shining stars who brought countless laughs to the world through their creativity, fearlessness & vulnerability.  Let's do right by them & kick those kids asses.  Can we hit 350?  400?  In fact, I might stop talking & only communicate by laughing.  Game on you little punks.  Oh, you think that's funny??

photo: 1

Friday, August 22, 2014

Black & White & A Little Bling

In Miami...

The Design District had me at hello....
 The Louis store was killer...
 What's up with the slipcovered TV, Margiela?  I was speechless (in a really bad way) over this sight at the Maison de Martin...
Chanel & palm trees at Bal Harbour, speechless in a good way...
White G-Wagens everywhere...
I can just imagine a modern day Joan Crawford stepping out of one in this Alexander McQueen getup..."Don't f*ck with me fellas!"...
Remember, in the midst of the polar vortex, my dream of sipping champagne poolside at the St. Regis Miami with my sister?  Well, it came true (& was even better as our dear friend joined us :)... 
& wouldn't you know that drinks were on the house?  The universe had them lined up waiting for our arrival :)  We toasted & took in the view as the sun set & the moon lit up the Miami sky...
  photos: me/5

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Everything, & Yet Nothing, Changes...

Some say we already know what's going to happen in our lives & on a subconscious level we hold the vision for it & play it out.  I've always believed my life would come together & really start making sense in my 40's & today, well, they begin.  My teens & 20's, ugh, did any of us really know what the hell we were doing?  I did what society told me & what I thought would lead to success & happiness- straight A's in school, a fancy career on Wall Street- I had worked extremely hard, I was on the track & it was great for a while.  But then, much to my chagrin, cracks began to emerge in my grand plan.  The truth was I wasn't becoming the person I was born to be & soon my inklings of doubt turned into a full on breakdown.  In my 30's I burned myself to the ground, gave the middle finger to the man & started forging my own path on my own terms.  It's been one hell of a ride & as I begin my 40th year on the planet, there are a lot of unknowns.  I don't know where my career will take me, I don't know who or where the love of my life is, I don't know where my more permanent home will be, but I absolutely know this...I'm going to focus on being 100% me- following my heart & dreams, sharing my gifts with the world, being happy, & enjoying every step of the journey (in a cute outfit, of course ;)

PS- I'm kicking off my journey by ringing in my 40th in Miami with my sister & a dear friend...
 
there will be lots of reflecting, relaxing & champagne drinking :)

Friday, August 1, 2014

Happynings

Cocktails & dinner in a bucolic Hudson Valley setting with one of my best friends...a beautiful doe walked by in the field behind us!  
Amazing beach day with my niece & nephews....
 Foster kittens!!!.... 
It's a horrific fact that our tax dollars fund the killing of 9,000 healthy & beautiful cats & dogs each day in shelters.  One of the things I want most in life is to see the US become a no kill country ASAP.  Please make a donation to help this cause and consider adopting & fostering- these furry angels deserve to live & keep their light & love shining in the world.  We can make it happen!!  http://bestfriends.org/
Totally digging the Kongos.  As if being four South African brothers with the last name Kongos isn't badass enough, their music is unique & powerful & some of their songs (like "I'm Only Joking") are a bit scary & ominous, like those flying monkeys from The Wizard of Oz are coming to get you....I can't stop listening!
I am gaga over this Gucci dress.  This is going on the list as one of my all time favorite ensembles....total perfection from head to toe- I wouldn't change a thing.  Well, except that I'd be wearing it ;) 
What's bringing a smile to your face lately?  All we ever have is this moment & what it brings...spending time with the people & pets you love, appreciating the utter beauty of nature, listening to a favorite song, wearing a favorite outfit...Stop, Take a deep breath, & Treasure the little moments because each one adds up to your life :) 

photos: me/1/2

Friday, July 11, 2014

Crazy for Camo

From Nantucket to the hood, from the streets of Manhattan to backcountry woods, from combat zones to iPhones, it's a democratic dose of swagger for all...

ladylike camo...
white jeans keeps it fresh...
hit me up ;)...
bringing the hip to hop...
his friends are like, Where are you dude?  We just don't see you anywhere..;)
Happy Friday!  Enjoy the glorious summer weekend :)

photos: me/1/2/3/4/5/me (via F**k Yeah Menswear)

Friday, June 27, 2014

Freedom

Do you ever have those moments when you feel utterly alive, free & full of joy?  I had one last weekend- I was driving on this road, Foo Fighters' "Rope" blasting on the radio, headed to Connecticut to spend the perfect summer day with my nephews & niece that I adore.  & then just like that my mind says, You can't be this happy, you need to be worrying about something.  Oh yes you're right, how could I have forgotten?!  & then the list starts.  Why are the happy moments so fleeting?  Why can't I feel this way most of the time instead of being at the mercy of the incessant chatter in my head?  I want to live my life to the fullest & of course have many goals but when you strip it all down all I really want is freedom.  Freedom from fear, worry, anxiety- all of the things that get in the way of the inner peace & joy that are the true & timeless nature of our souls.  But how to do this?  It is absolutely possible but requires a commitment like no other.

First- stay in the present moment.  How much of your day is spent in the present moment?  How many of your thoughts involve ruminating over the past or worrying about the future?  It's probably safe to say most of them.  Well the past & future don't exist & all we ever have is the depth & beauty of the present moment.  And the quality of your present moments determines the quality of your future moments so make them good ones!  Give your full attention & love to whatever you're doing.  Any resistance to what you're doing will cause pain.   Accept the present moment in whatever form it is & know that the whole universe is always as it should be.  You're here, you're alive, this is a miracle worth treasuring every single moment.

Second- it is profound to understand that you are not the thoughts in your head- good, bad, it doesn't matter- one second you're happy, the next cranky, WTF?  This is your ego & it incessantly talks about anything & everything under the false illusion of "protecting you" & "making sense of the world" according to your beliefs, experiences, etc. but it is not your friend & causes pain & anxiety.  You will have freedom when you're able to disidentify from your thoughts & know that they are not the real you.  The real you is the observer of your thoughts, your spirit.  It's always calm & at peace no matter what crazy shit is going on in your head.  

These are some pretty deep topics & if you want freedom in your life I can't recommend enough reading The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer & A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle.  I have been reading them on & off for years & they are nothing short of mind blowing.

Have a wonderful weekend my friends- stay present, don't let your thoughts control you, & enjoy every second!!

photo: me